Almost all of us heard the words “stop crying” as a child, and surely every boy has heard “guys don’t cry” hundreds of times.
William Pollock’s book “Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From the Myths of Boyhood” proves that boys in their infancy are usually more emotional than girls – they cry and scream more often.
In contrast, four-five-year-old boys are less likely to show emotion and this is not caused by anybiological differences between men and women.
The problem lies in the culture.
Throughout their childhood, boys hear how real men behave, and in adulthood they are still expected to be stereotypical masculinity, disregarding their sensitivity and showing their feelings.
Hiding emotions can be clearly seen in pop culture, and above all in cinematography, where film characters become role models for most men.
Hiding “unmasculine” emotions can lead to increased aggression and frustration or depression among men.
While working on the project, I analyzed the filmography of a thousand of the most popular actors according to the IMDB portal. I found less than thirty scenes in which the face of a crying actor is fully visible.
Why do men behave more aggressively than women when it is not biological? Why are they afraid of being compromised and why do they have to be tough? Why do they wear a macho mask? Why is anger the only emotion they can freely show, so the only emotion, turns out to be anger?
Horbów (born 1995) visual artist and performer from the Polish-Ukrainian border. Graduate of the Academy of Fine Arts in Warsaw. His artistic practice works on principles of creating a collage of social phenomena, borrowings, and principles on which people act.
Founder of Self-House-Residency – residential project in response to the current COVID-19 situation which promote the self-isolation movement in their own houses where artists can still create freely. Each resident has Self-House’s instagram for